Rebuilding Gay Society With Sufism, Stoicism And Objectivism.  Tools To Bring Back Trust & Open The Heart For Gay Men.

Why Big Gay Family Chose Sufism, Stoicism and Objectivism As Foundational Philosophies

Every strong community needs a philosophy for unity and guidance.  Without a philosophy, members cannot develop trust and relationships are only based on external factors.  To invite the most successful and intelligent men to the social program, we decided to offer an experience that enriches our member’s lives beyond their wildest dreams.  We want to offer a full life transformation.  This is why we combined three philosophies together into a powerful trinity that offers solutions and guidance to most of today’s challenges in gay relationships and also with careers, health and success.


Paul’s experience with the Sufi teachings started in Fort Lauderdale in 2010 when he met Ina Lee who became his mentor and meditation teacher.  After moving to Denver in 2016, Paul became involved in the Denver’s Sufi community, which involved regular Sufi Zikr Dances in Denver and Boulder.  Frequent participation during Sufi Zikrs and deeper immersion with the teachings of Inayat Khan gave Paul a depth of understanding about the true practice of love.  Detachment from the ego, acceptance of all men and the practice of allowing became part of the Big Gay Family Social Program, which gives gay men a fresh start in rebuilding their personal life without rejections, judgments and frustrations.

Every man has the power to attain all his goals, fall in love and be happy but to activate his potential he needs to enter the space of trust with other men.   Sufism opens your heart. Stoicism helps you develop your character.  Objectivism teaches you how to think.  Any man who empowers himself with these teachings has the opportunity to enter the space of trust with other men and benefit from the cooperation and innovation that it produces.

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