I was browsing through various personals and realized that the guys that are talking about monogamy are really looking for security and control over the other person.

Just think about it:
Imagine that there is no AIDS, STD’s and that a person will never break up with you. His need is to have sex with another person once per 3 months. Knowing that he would never leave you – would you still break up with him to protect your idea of monogamy?

So now ask yourself this question: Are you looking for monogamy or love?
Is your belief that love only exists with monogamy hurting your possibilities for relationships?