Why dating closeted gay men contributes to psychological damage due to lack of validation, acceptance and understanding?

And why the closeted gay man needs a therapist or a coach and not a lover.

Dating a closeted gay guyDon’t Do it! – Says Paul Angelo can bring long-term trauma to your life.  Here are 5 reasons why you should avoid dating a closeted guy.

• Closeted gay men lie to their friends, co-workers and families about who they are and they will lie to you too because the mechanism for lying is already in place.

• Closeted gay men will pass shame down to you by creating situations in which you are not authentically introduced to his friends or co-workers.

• Closeted gay men will objectify you sexually without recognizing your goals, passions and dreams. Why? Because if they cannot share who you are with everyone else, why bother learning more about you.

• Closeted gay men will end the relationship the second your presence threatens to identify his “dysfunctional reality”.

• Closeted gay men will decrease your self-esteem so fast and so covertly that when the relationship is over, you will not know what “hit you”.

In closing, anyone who lies about his identity is not a candidate for any romantic relationship, even if you believe that love is about accepting everything about the person.  We live in complex times, with lots of responsibilities and increasing demands and if you choose a partner that is not psychologically well, your whole life can turn upside down – and for those who tried to date a closeted guy – you know what I am talking about.  So unless he is fully “out”, keep distance and instruct him to get some help.