Myth of gay sexual compatibility in gay dating and relationships.

Gay Dating, Gay Relationships, Gay Sex and Intimacy

Sexual compatibility can take away opportunities to make new friends and develop long term relationships. In a world of top and bottom we never get the full package. “Perfect sex” usually comes at the cost of personality mismatch. A new perspective is helpful to make better choices for lovers and friends.

I believe that looking for sexual compatibility has nothing to do with sexual compatibility but it has everything to do with the desire to feel comfortable, validated and accepted. I think that the reason why gay men are looking for sexual compatibility is because they are looking to reduce uncertainty, abandonment and rejection when meeting others. Because sexual connection is the easiest to experience, given the time and effort involved, it kidnaps the process of connecting and gives an illusion of a connection.

Be courageous, take risks and let go of your rigid expectations in gay dating and gay relationships.

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This Valentine’s Day 2016 lets remind ourselves about the three foundations for love: taking more risks with people, being more courageous with your dating and reducing your expectations. That formula always works because this is the Mother Nature formula for love that never fails.

If you are struggling in gay dating it is probably because you forgot about this universal principle that makes love go around. So – get to it – start taking more courage, allow risk and reduce your expectations and your heart will become alive. again and you will feel the rush of new love in your life.

Power of acceptance in gay life to overcome frustrations in gay dating and relationships.

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I struggle so many times in my life. I continually face difficulties and challenges. Acceptance is my favorite tool in regaining control, spiritual balance and then learning lessons from whatever it is that I am struggling with.

Through the practice of acceptance, my struggles become like walking against the wind – the wind blows at me – I don’t ask the wind to stop – I accept it. When you do this more often, the resistance in your life can actually become fun. As you are dating people – there will be a “wind effect”, some friction, some resistance – and through acceptance you can allow that to be – just accept it without trying to change it.

Importance Of Struggle And Suffering In Gay Life

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I would like to share with you some tips about how to approach suffering and struggling – especially if you are a gay man over 40 who is new to emotional anxieties and suffering. If something bad is happening in your life that is causing you to suffer, there is a way to “look” it that will make you feel better. In other words, there is a softer approach to suffering that can make a huge difference for you.

The starting point is to accept your suffering without trying to change it. Acceptance will allow you to concentrate on the actual suffering instead of focusing on trying to stop the suffering. There is a big difference. Most gay men, when they are suffering, they try to stop it by compensation with sex, alcohol and drugs. Sometimes they cover up their suffering with more work – they “stay busy”. Some gay men travel consistently to avoid dealing with the suffering of being single and lonely.

Gay Life Coaching: Achievement And State Of Flow For Gay Men Over 40

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Gay men have more difficulty achieving the state of flow. In this video and article I will share with you how to enter the state of flow and how to stay there for as long as possible. State of flow is a state where your worries go away, where all the uncertainty, ambiguity and fear go away and you get into action towards the goals and plans you have decided to achieve. And the feeling you get from the consistent execution of your ideas is what I call the “state of flow”.

Gay Renaissance Starts Now: Gay Marriage Finally Legal

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With the new ruling of the Supreme Court, gay marriage is officially legal all across the country! This day has been awaited for so long that it marks a new day in history of modern world as the day that equality and freedom prevailed. This video and article discusses ideas about what this means to gay men looking into the future.