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GayCourses.com - Education For Gay Professionals
Learning how to have successful relationships is the fastest way to happiness, love, and positive experiences. There is no other subject or area of study that can provide the same level of benefits as mastering the skills of building and maintaining relationships.
Here are some specific examples of the benefits of having successful relationships:
- Increased happiness and well-being: Studies have shown that people who have strong, supportive relationships are happier and healthier than those who do not. This is especially true for LGBTQ+ people, who often face discrimination and prejudice.
- Reduced stress and anxiety: Having a strong support network can help to reduce stress and anxiety. This is important for LGBTQ+ people, who are more likely to experience mental health problems than the general population.
- Improved physical health: Studies have shown that people who have strong social ties have lower rates of chronic diseases such as heart disease, stroke, and cancer. This is likely due to the fact that social support can help to reduce stress and improve coping mechanisms.
- Greater sense of belonging: LGBTQ+ people who have strong relationships with others in the community are more likely to feel a sense of belonging. This can be especially important for people who have been rejected by their families or communities.
- Increased self-esteem: Having supportive relationships can help to boost self-esteem. This is important for LGBTQ+ people, who are often subjected to negative stereotypes and discrimination.
If you are interested in learning more about how to have successful relationships, join us at BigGayFamily.com or visit GayCourses.com.
What Paul's clients say:
I was lost. I was not doing well socially, I wasn’t making friends I wasn’t meeting anyone very much. Luckily, I run into Paul one day.
He was a big help. And now my life is a lot better because of it. I am much more social. I am getting along better in the gay world. I understand it now. Paul has been very helpful, and I am leading a much nicer life now.
Ken
I felt that for some years I have been spinning my wheels – not having a direction. These principles that I have learned were helpful in ways of helping me become more peaceful, more centered, more aware.
Tom
As opposed to looking at a prospective partner only through physical ways, I have learned to look at someone from the physical, logical and emotional side. I need to look at my long term plans and see if my prospective partners plans match up with my future plans. Only then I can have a truly successful relationship.
Eric
What impressed me about Paul was that his level of thinking about gay psychology and gay relationships was a lot more sophisticated than I had given it credit. I didn’t realize that there were people like Paul who were thinking about gay issues in much more nuanced terms, much more sophisticated ways. I didn’t realize how much I had sort of written off the gay community and gay psychology.
Ron
Coming Out & Gay Life
I have always viewed my gayness as an intellectual adventure. I never hesitated to tell others that I was gay, nor did I ever pretend to be straight in order to fit in. On the contrary, I was a gay rebel from the start, loving all things gay and advocating for gay rights.
When I was 22 years old, I met a man who gave me the freedom to be myself. This was a pivotal moment in my life, as it allowed me to embrace my gayness with a positive and loving attitude. My twenties were rich with lovers and men who were good for me and who helped me to grow as a person. These men were like surrogate fathers to me, providing me with the love and support that I needed while my own father was absent.
The years that I spent with Patrick, Tony, and Eric shaped my perspectives on what is possible with gay love and gay relationships. I had a preview of gay life that was optimistic, hopeful, and caring. These men showed me that it is possible to have a fulfilling and loving relationship with another man, and they inspired me to use my voice to help others do the same.
I am grateful for the opportunity to have lived a life that is full of love and acceptance. I am proud to be gay, and I am committed to using my voice to make the world a better place for all gay men.
Toxic Family Dynamic
It took me many years to understand the dynamics of my family and how I was living in cycles of guilt, shame, and fear from abandonment by narcissistic parents.
As a young boy, I knew that my family was different. I first noticed it during Christmas dinner when my parents pretended everything was fine, even though I had heard them yelling at each other a few hours earlier.
My father had mood swings, would give the silent treatment, and would fake illnesses to get attention. My mother cried all the time and blamed my father for everything. It took many years for me to see beyond my mother’s tears and recognize her pattern of manipulation.
Understanding my parents’ dysfunction was an important breakthrough. I finally understood the origin of my feelings of loneliness and alienation. I realized that both of my parents were narcissistic and that their neglect and abandonment were causing me to feel disconnected and experience negative emotions.
This realization gave me the ability to heal properly and address the root cause of my emotional struggles. Feelings of loneliness and depression started to dissolve. The feeling of emptiness and expectations of someone else coming to rescue me also dissolved. My personal relationships improved, my health improved, and so did my life.
Moving To Colorado
At forty, I moved to Colorado and began my “real life” – discovering the joy of mountain climbing. Nothing compares to the pleasure of reaching a peak with a good companion by your side and bearing witness to the stunning beauty of nature.
Mountains have taught me discipline and how to stay committed to a plan. More importantly, they remind me that I can accomplish anything if I put my mind and body into it. Words cannot express how much gratitude I feel when I reach the summit of a 14,000+ foot peak; it’s like everything is possible after ascending such majestic heights.
In 2020, I took a big leap and moved from Denver to Colorado Springs, just before the pandemic hit. Since then, my life has been forever changed, as I’ve embarked on a journey of adventure and personal growth.
Living in Colorado Springs has been an absolute dream, and I feel so grateful for the opportunity to explore this beautiful area of Colorado on a regular basis. One of my favorite things to do has been going on long hikes almost every weekend, trekking through the mountains, and immersing myself in nature.
This has become my go-to activity for self-reflection and relaxation, as it allows me to disconnect from the world and tune into myself. I’m constantly discovering new hidden spots and stunning vistas, which never cease to amaze and inspire me.
Among my favorite places in Colorado are Buena Vista and Salida, which have become beloved destinations for myself and my hiking buddy, Jim. Buena Vista, located about two hours west of Colorado Springs, is a charming mountain town situated in the Arkansas River Valley. It’s known for its stunning mountain views, natural hot springs, and abundance of outdoor recreational activities, including hiking, skiing, and fishing.
Salida, located just south of Buena Vista, is an equally captivating town that combines majestic mountain views with a vibrant and creative arts scene. Both towns are filled with quaint local businesses, warm-hearted people, and a sense of community that’s hard to find elsewhere.
For me, there’s something magical about visiting these towns, and it’s become a tradition for Jim and me to spend time there whenever we can. It’s truly amazing how living in Colorado Springs has brought me so much joy and fulfillment, and shown me firsthand the incredible beauty of this state.
Big Gay Family Social Program
Paul is the creator of the Big Gay Family Social Program. If you’re looking for love, Big Gay Family is the community-based approach to help get you there. Founded in Miami back in 2010 as a matchmaking service, it has since evolved into so much more – offering gay men over 50 tools and exercises towards creating intimacy, improving communication and deepening emotional connections with others.
With monthly introductions and powerful tools for intimacy – your relationship journey is set out to succeed. Start now by clicking below; enjoy access to over 50 helpful resources on your path from singledom to marriage!
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Art & Magic
Everyone is an artist. Every activity in your life can be an expression of your inner artist. You decide every day!
When we think of creativity or artistry, we often associate them with visual or performing arts, such as painting, music, dance, or theater. However, the reality is that art is much broader than that. Every activity we engage in, from the way we dress, decorate our home, prepare meals, or even organize our workspace, has an element of creativity and self-expression at its core.
The act of creating something new, even if it’s something as simple as putting together a new outfit, can be incredibly rewarding and empowering. It allows us to connect with our inner selves and express emotions that might be hard to articulate otherwise. Moreover, being an artist in our own right doesn’t mean that we have to be perfect or create masterpieces every time we do something.
Instead, it’s about embracing imperfection, allowing ourselves to experiment and make mistakes, and appreciating the process of creation. So whatever you’re doing today, remember that you have the power to infuse it with your unique style and perspective and that every choice you make is an opportunity to be an artist in your own right. So go ahead and let your creativity flourish!
To me, art offers the doorway to deeper meaning – often not available in the gay culture. In November 2015, I spent an entire week visiting several museums in Boston (Museum of Fine Arts, Isabella Stewart Gardner Museum, The Institute of Contemporary Art), – spending the entire day looking at paintings, sculptures, vases, and ornaments. I finally understood the necessity of art in our lives. Art is the fuel to our soul. Through art, we can communicate, inspire and transform. Without art, we die inside!
Big Gay Family Social Program is an example of what happens when we mix art with socialization. We end up inside a world of artistic self-expression enhanced by the desire to build friendships and relationships. If you love art, you will love Big Gay Family.
Client Stories
Since 2010, Paul has worked with 1,000’s of gay men. Below are videos from a small number of Paul’s students who volunteered to go on camera and share their story. Enjoy!